Maa..My Mum

माँ ..Mother..Mum..Mummy

Relationship of mother and child  might have been the most written about relationship.

This post is a direct note of gratitude to my mother and to my Prabhu.
Gratitude to my Thakurjee, because it is His Kripa that she is my mother in this birth cycle.
My mother, whom I call Maa is now nearing 78 years of age. My father just turned 83 years in May this year.

So why am I writing this today?

In life there are sudden realisations when a thought just hits you and makes you wonder how it escaped you all these years. It is her birthday today, and as her child I may have not been able to express my love and gratitude enough.

Well, this is what happened today early morning. My youngest child, studying in the United States, messaged me to ask the meaning of this profile picture I had on my Whats App.

This is the picture:photo

“Home is where your Mom is”.

These simple words seemed to convey my sentiments for my Mother too.

The realisation of how lucky I was to have my mum around, again hit me as I read the words. Just how true it is! Mothers are who we take for granted in our life, and these words made me aware of how much I  may have overlooked this most undemanding relationship of my life. She is there when you need her!


And maybe that’s why I always never thought in the way I am thinking today.
I write this as a public note for you:

‘MAA, माँ

At this moment I cannot imagine my life without your presence. You have always been there to listen to all I have to say, whether you agree to it or no, माँ , you have  heard me out whenever I needed to express myself, negatively or positively.

All those thoughts and experiences that I have been able to express to you माँ, thank you for hearing me out. You are one who will never judge or think less whatever I may do or say. This is the biggest security for me as your child. And though I am now 57 years old, with four children, three of them married, one in college, a lovely grand child, I will always remain a child to you.

It’s amusing and heartening that whenever I come home to meet you, you always continue to feed me as if I was yet a young kid.  

The freedom and right to just lift the phone and command you to leave everything else and hear me out, give me your time, whenever I need you to is so comforting’.

Being made to feel like a child has given me the carefree attitude of security, which otherwise never would be possible.

A mother’s blessing of love and “Just being there for you; whenever”, is incomparable to any other relationship. Just the thought that she is there and I can go to her at any point of time; it’s the most wonderful feeling.

This domination which we have over our mums is a divine gift from the creator. Mothers are programmed by Him to replace His physical presence in our world.

It’s always so easy to blame our mother for what may not have worked in the early years of our life.

‘Please forgive me for all the times I kept blaming you for all that did not work in my life. You silently heard me always. Your patience is amazing माँ.

Today when I have the understanding to know that what happens in our lives is a part of our individual karmic journey, I feel uneasy about the moments when I put blames on you.

You are there to extend comfort and courage when the going gets tough.

Having gone through some very tough phases in your life, I always find a smile on your face and forgiveness for everyone.

You have taught by example, not words. The courage that you have been able to show in the most adverse situations, has to come from your faith and bhakti, through all the hours spent in doing your प्रार्थना for everyone around. You are a higher soul who will find mukti, and find your rightful place in the true sense with your प्रभु.

The simplicity with which you have sacrificed so much is exemplary.

Your non attachment to wealth and luxuries is an example for all of us as your kids to follow.’

माँ आपकी सादगी और भक्ति का हमारे जीवन पर कितना गहरा असर है, ये जीवन में बहुत समय बीतने पर समझ आया 

आप और पापा के जीवन में इतना वैभव होने के बावजूद भी आप दोनों में सच्चे साधु लक्षण हैं।

हम सभी बच्चों की तरफ से हमारा सादर नमन स्वीकार करें

(Written in 2013 for my Dearest Mum and Papa)

We love you

My eyes are wet, Im sure they are tears and few drops flow down my cheeks too.. But I am not able to describe or understand the emotions that flow with them. As I end this post, it is with a very strong mix of feelings and thoughts, which I actually am not able to comprehend, and so will not express them. Words lack the strength to express the meaning of a mother.

A few memories from earlier times:

Beautiful, Serene, my mom

Beautiful, Serene, my mom


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Jai Shreeji!!

44 thoughts on “Maa..My Mum

  1. Jiji I love this article and how well you have depicted mummy’s life journey.
    The photos selected are also great. I will get mom to read it too when back tonight

  2. Thanks munna. Had wanted to do this since some time and what better time than her birthday

  3. This is brilliantly written
    I can completely empathize with you.
    Like you have said, cannot imagine life without her.
    For me ,she has been the biggest influence in my life and what I am as a person today.
    Your words are as touching as some of the pics on your site.
    Thanks for writing this -it was about time !

  4. Hi Shya-Ma,
    You are such a good writer and you don’t even know it 🙂
    Lovely words for a Nani from a Nani.. Thanks for taking the time to pen down your thoughts.
    Hi Nani,
    I am so fortunate and going to always be grateful to you for giving me the BEST memories growing up. All the moments we shared, from Peeled Santras to countless1.5 Litre Pepsi bottles to abuse of Laal Davai to “Kaha ka bhediya kaha ka tu” to buying Vadilal Vanilla ice cream “Bricks” from Shankar gali (which you finished in minutes)… I could go on with more stories but all I want to say is that you are the best Nani that anyone could ever ask for!
    Look forward to coming and surprising you while you do your puja-paath! Really miss spending time with you. Please come to Singapore soooon !
    lots of love

    Also – nice image “Home is where your Mom is”.

  5. Hi Bua! I have never seen so many of these pics! So much history! I can imagine every picture with so many stories behind it! You are so lucky to have been brought up by such a beautiful soul like maa!! Looking forward to ‘seeing’ more stories from you!

  6. Buaaa…. its so so lovely to read your thoughts and feelings for Maa.. got tears in my eyes reading it! You’ve been able to capture her persona and aura so beautifully, well done!!
    Also, it really is of great significance to me as I will be taking on the most crucial role a woman can take on, of being a mother!!! Maa has always raised the standards and bars for taking on any role… she truly inspires all of us.
    Thank you thank you… for sharing it with us!!

    A big big Happpyy Birthday to you Maa…. we loveeee u loads n the way u feed us…muuahhh

    And loveddddddddddddd the pics!! Maa looks stunning in alll!!
    Love u Bua!

  7. Thanks Attu! rightly said, a radiant soul with a beautiful, charming, angelic face

  8. Thanks Vibha. And congratulations to you!!
    You have a lovely grand mom for inspiration, so no worries:)

  9. My Dearest friend.. U are indeed blessed to have such a wonderful soul as your mother
    I was privileged to have met her in magical Vrindavan .. What a lovely radiant woman!
    They don’t make them like that anymore
    Wishing her every happiness peace and good health on her birthday and always
    God bless u mummy
    Jai Shree Krishna.

  10. Simply loved the way u have expressed ur feelings abha and the old pictures are priceless.. Mom looks like a doll , so beautiful inside and out .. Wishing your parents all the very best always.. Lots of love to all of you ❤️

  11. Jai shri krishn jiji,
    Mummy is truly an inspiration to all of us, really enjoyed viewing the pictures as well 🙂
    Loved the format and the blog as a whole.
    Lots of love.

  12. Mummy,
    This emotion is just so right, and I’m sure every child in life feels this way towards their mums. They are god in human form.
    Your gorgeous Maa, has given birth to our wonderful MA, so we are all very thankful to her for that.
    I also, totally agree that home is where mum is,(thanks favourite child;) ) and a mothers ability to hear and understand a child’s emotion even without the child having to express it, is just amazing.
    Thanks mummy for writing this and thanks Naniji for this lovely family.

  13. Happy birthday to mom . Abha u have put ur feelings to words and expressed it beautifully for mom. A wonderful person with simplicity and grace. You made it more special wth all the beautiful memories very thoughtfully complied. May god bless you with her love always.

  14. Jsk .jiji very well expressed yr emotions.All her pic showing her warmth with people & her inner happiness. u said.”
    You r there to extend comfort & courage when the going gets tough”
    “You are one who will never judge or think less whatever I may do or say ”
    “Your non attachment to wealth & luxuries is an example for all of us ”
    These are the most important values, which I also wish to adopt.. thanks jiji for writing this for mummy….I wish GOD will fullfill all her wishes. …Happy Birthday mummy.
    V love you sooooo much

  15. Yes Attu. She has lived through many stages of life. It is a long history, I agree. Luckily we have these pictures

  16. Beautifully written Bua!

    Maa has been my best friend for the last 9 years and we are all blessed to have her in our lives.

    Maa is beautiful inside out and like u said she always has a smile on her face 🙂 she makes you feel safe…she makes you feel home!

    Happy happy happy birthday to you Maa and thanks Bua for sharing all these wonderful pictures

  17. Hi, Abha. Pranam to your Maa and love to you. Home is where mom is. So true. I loved the way U have expressed your feeling with the pictures.

  18. Maaa..sorry for not writing earlier..I had written to you on whatsapp and then didnt get a chance.

    I must say that your post really touched my heart! Its very deep and true feelings are present in each and every one of your words. The way you have described your feelings for Naniji is something I’ve never heard before form you and its created new feelings inside me about you and your relationship with your Mommy, my Naniji. The feelings are very positive and endearing, and make us look at life in a different way. One can often easily forget people close to themselves, and get caught up in todays huslty bustly world.

    I really hope we grow up with the same emotions and values as you feel for Naniji and I would really want us to be able to successfully give back to you and to Naniji, what you have given us. A renewed sense of responsibility has already awakened inside me. Thank you once again for sharing such a beautiful post with all of us!

    Lots and lots of love,


  19. Jsk jiji.
    I also experience the same & mummy helped me to raise Varun & Vibha with great values, without her presence, it was difficult.
    “You are there to extend comforts courage when the going gets tough “……still mummy gave me enough space to grow ahead in my life.
    The values which r adoptrd by mummy, Praveen my husband is the key of my successful happy married life.
    I am also deeply thankful to mummy for making us strong to face any situation of our life.
    LOVE u always mummy.

  20. Mum this is so well written! being around nanu always brings some sort of peace to my mind, no matter what sort of chaos goes on around.
    She has great values that she has passed down to all of us. Not only has she overfed me with bread-upma but also overfed me with her endless love and kindness. Lots and lots of love for both you mothers!

  21. Thank you sweetie! I’m sure nanu will love to hear about the bread uppma😄
    God bless you all

  22. Such an aptly beautiful ode, for such a beautiful woman. The artfully articulated depth of your words have managed not only to capture the essence of Naniji’s inner beauty but moreover showcase the selfless purity of a mother – child bond.

    Your words have truly done justice in encapsulating the essence of this special relationship.

  23. Thank you Priyanka, very rightly said; a mother-child relationship is like no other. Thank you

  24. For dearest Nani and Nani’s sweet Nani ( Nan-hi )
    Two beautiful women who have shown us that prayers overcome all adversities and that there is limitless wisdom in silence. Mom, this is possibly one of your most heartfelt pieces , it fills us with gratitude and a childlike desire to have life remain the way it is right now , forever.
    Thank you.

  25. Jiji read ur post on Maa…. My mom.
    It’s beautiful, so full of emotions n love n gratitude. I too felt my eyes moist. love u, Pranaam….

  26. Abha Mam…radhey radhey
    mere pas shabd nhi hai apne Bhav prakat karne k liye..kuch shabdo mein vyakt karti hu…. ( apne Mann se janiye mere Mann ki baat..). mein apne office mein hu,aur aapka blog padd rhi hu..forcefully i stop my tears to rolling down…aisa lagaa ki Mirror mein apni (Mummy aur Naniji Nd My Nanaji) ko dekh rhi hu.. I lost my mummy when i was just 12+…and within 1nd half yrs Naniji passed away..and after 2 years my Nanaji gone…
    My Nani house is in Vrindavan..just 20 steps from Bankey Bihariji Mandir… those days are my life..12 saal ki age mein apne nanaji naniji aur mummy se jo meine paaya or i can say jo unhone mujhe diya..wo adbhut hai…Shriji ki Kripa…

    i have so many things to share with you…jo aap apni website par add kar sakti hain and u can also go there to share its authenticity…

    Thank you

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