‘Reset your normal..’ If you wish to continue to live in harmony and peace
(A note from a close friend, which I share with her permission)
How does one deal with the suddenness of a life threatening disease?
As it can completely throw you off all plans you might’ve made for the future..
‘Unless you reset your normal and acknowledge the realistic situation that has entered your life, you’ll continue to grapple in the dark emotions. Accepting the reality of what has happened is the first step to recovery ..’
As we count blessings..
Not many of us actually sit with a paper and pen to list all blessings we receive on a daily basis.
But until the moment we have consciously sat down to list the positive, blessed situations and relationships we have in our life, we’ll tend to over look some of the most extraordinary gifts granted to us.
I too like many of you, have read and heard this ‘Count your blessings’, truth enough times; of how we should always look on what we have rather then keep a track of all that is missing.
And I’ve acknowledged this fact also most of the time.
But this point by point listing; which is to sit and write it all on paper has been a literal eye opener.
To recognise and experience this fact of counting blessings daily; took a serious illness with an extreme surgery and a very low point in my health status. Once the worst was over, I found it tough coming to terms with what had happened and experienced tremendous anger and loss, with a desire to isolate myself and most of the days not get out of bed.
Tough to understand though, that there are times when serious illnesses could be actually a blessing in disguise (this is a general term and many serious illness can be fatal too). They make you sit back and rethink all that is important in your life; if all that you were doing is actually worth anything anymore.
A major lifestyle change is priority. It forces you to take a complete physical, physiological, mental, emotional detox.
It pushes you into making lifestyle changes; changes which you never thought you had the strength to go through. And once put in that changed lifestyle where preserving health becomes a priority, there is no other way you’d wish to live.
As then you will have tasted the benefits of self discipline and self regulation; in several areas of your life. Most importantly of what you eat and when you eat. Body actually feels like a mandir where each morsel of food you put in, matters.
This is my thought five months into recovery from cancer surgery.
I give thanks each day for receiving the energy to be out of bed and doing normal chores; and have learnt to live from day to day; or as all my therapists have told me to henceforth plan and live three months at a time.
As limited types of food is permitted life has become simple; no longer I am planning meals from the time I wake up.
Life has also become about taking care of my emotional health before anything or anyone else. As realising that if I am not emotionally healthy I will be toxic to all around me. Will spread the poison of negativity and despair with my unhealthy emotions.
Finally taught me to express gratitude to the Shaktis who gave strength to live from each day to the next day.. gave courage and understanding to accept what happened,
and most important not to ask this oft repeated question “WHY ME”.. As I understand today that I am the only creator of any and every situation I face in my life.
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Abha Shahra Shyama 